Sex and Relationship Education and Therapy for Individuals, Couples online and in-person Brighton
Let's talk about the thing everyone's thinking and nobody's saying out loud
Mismatched desire, pain, shame, identity, the sex life you were promised versus the one you've actually got, I work with individuals and couples on all of it. No judgement, no clinical detachment.
You don't need the perfect words. You just need to start.
Spaces are limited and offered via the waitlist, pop your name down and I'll be in touch when one opens.
My Style
I'm direct, warm, and I'll probably make you laugh at some point, usually about the dismantling or contradictions of society, sex and self.
But underneath the humour, my approach is political. I don't think that's a controversial thing to admit, every therapist works from a worldview, most just don't tell you what theirs is. Here's mine:
Queer theory shapes how I think about identity and desire, as things that move, rather than boxes you get sorted into once and stay in forever. I won't assume your body, your relationship structure, or your desire should look a certain way to be valid.
Intersectional feminism means I never look at your sex life in isolation. Race, class, disability, culture, migration, gender, these all shape the messages you were given about your body long before you had any say in it. Good therapy has to hold all of that, not just the bit that happens in bed.
Anti-colonial thinking means questioning whose idea of "normal" sex, relationships, or bodies we've all inherited, often White, Western, heteronormative ones, and making room for yours instead.
Anti-capitalist means I don't believe intimacy is a productivity project. You don't need to optimise your sex life, hit targets, or perform healing on a deadline. Some sessions we'll do deep work. Some we'll just tell the truth about how tired you are. Both count.
None of this means therapy with me is a lecture. I've spent my career teaching, and if there's one thing teaching taught me, it's that people learn best when they're not being talked at. So expect conversation, not a syllabus, I just wanted you to know what's underneath it.
Low or mismatched libido
Sexual anxiety & performance
Couples & Intimate Partner Therapy
What can we work on together?
Pain during sex
Vaginismus and Vulvodynia
Intimacy & emotional connection
Sexual identity & exploration
Kink and Fetish
Sex Education
LGBTQIA+ affirming therap
Porn, compulsivity & shame
Desire that's changed shape, perimenopause, menopause, ageing bodies, or just life
Sex after a long relationship, after kids, after loss, after everything changing at once
Rebuilding intimacy at 40, 50, 60+ on your terms, not a 25-year-old's
How I work
I'm not neutral, and I don't think good therapists ever really are.
My work is queer-affirming and intersectional feminist by default, not as an add-on. That means I look at your sex life in context, your body, your history, your culture, your class, the messages you were handed before you had any say in the matter. I trained as an educator before I trained as a therapist, and I've lived and worked abroad, so I don't assume there's one "normal" way to have a relationship or a body.
I also don't believe good sex or a good relationship is something you buy your way into. My job isn't to sell you a fixed version of intimacy, it's to help you find yours.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Starting therapy can feel daunting, sometimes overwhelming, so well done for getting this far.
A good connection between client and therapist is one of the biggest predictors of whether therapy actually works. So take your time, read my bio, have a look at my Instagram, and get a feel for whether my approach fits what you're looking for.
Once you think we might be a good match, reach out via the form at the bottom of this page and we'll book in an initial session. This first session isn't really about the detail of what's brought you here, it's about whether we can genuinely connect. I'll explain more about how I work, we'll talk through what therapy means to you, and we'll start to shape what you want from this process and how we might build that together. Sessions run 50 or 75 minutes, and to be completely clear, you will never be asked to undress or take part in any sexual activity. This is a talking therapy, exclusively.
To keep things safe and in line with COSRT's ethical framework, I'll ask you to complete three forms, a contract, registration, and a privacy policy, and to make payment ahead of our first session. If you're joining online, I'll send your video link once these are in. If you're coming in person, I'd ask that everything's completed at least 24 hours beforehand.
Questions answered.
What is sex therapy and how is it different from regular talking therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialist form of psychotherapy that focuses on sexual health, function, and relationships. Sessions are entirely verbal, there is no physical contact. A qualified sex therapist has specific training to address issues that general therapists may not feel equipped to explore.
Do I have to be in a relationship to benefit from sex therapy?
Absolutely not. Individual sex therapy is just as valuable as couples work. Many clients come alone to work on personal experiences, identity, trauma, or self-understanding, all completely valid reasons to start therapy.
Is this service LGBTQ+ affirming?
Yes, fully and wholeheartedly. The Sex Ed Club is an explicitly inclusive, queer-affirming practice. All identities, orientations, and relationship structures are welcome and respected.
How much does sex therapy cost?
Prices are £80 for individual in-person, £70 individual online, £100 for couples in-person and £90 for couples online.
Are sessions in person or online?
Sessions are available both online, via secure video call, making them accessible to clients across England, Wales, and Scotland and in-person (Brighton).
How long are sessions, and how often do we meet?
Sessions run 50 or 75 minutes, usually weekly or fortnightly. I'd encourage committing to a regular slot, consistency tends to make the work land better, and it holds the space for you.
Join the waitlist.
I work with a small, deliberate caseload, 10 spaces at a time, across individual and couples work, because this kind of therapy deserves real attention, not a conveyor belt.
When a space opens, waitlist members are offered it first, in order.
Good things are worth waiting for and so are you.
Pop your details below and I'll reach out as soon as I have availability.
Your details are kept strictly confidential and never shared. GDPR compliant.
All sessions are led by Nikki Scott, a COSRT registered sex and realtionship therapist and sex educator with an MA from the University of Sussex and a background spanning therapy, education and international development.